I saw this post the other day from Perry Noble and decided it was worthy of repeating here. Remember, these are ways to destroy your marriage... As in these are things you don't want to do.
Want to absolutely destroy your marriage? Here are seven ways that always work!
#1 – Refuse To Communicate
Talk about the person and not to them because doing so will
be awkward…this will assure destruction! And, the silent treatment is
really an amazing weapon when it comes to refusing to communicate, don’t
worry about the fact that five year olds do it…just own it!
#2 – Refuse To Listen
Interrupting my spouse during conflict to immediately correct them
and then trying my best to make a stronger point always helps tear a
relationship to pieces!
#3 – Always Assuming The Absolute Worse About Your Spouse
As soon as I hear (or even think about) something negative about my
spouse it is absolutely essential to carry that thought to its fullest
illogical conclusion. Don’t EVER ask for an explanation or
clarification as more open communication will lead to a stronger
#4 – Make Sure The Goal Is To Win The Argument Rather Than Actually Settle The Dispute
If you realize you are wrong about something you must allow pride to
dominate your thought life, thus unleashing a barrage of accusations
that actually have nothing to do with what the original
argument/discussion had to do with in the first place! Win at all
costs, even if it means saying things that hurt and wound deeply.
#5 – You Must View Your Spouse As Your Enemy, NOT Your Friend
You cannot see your spouse and you as being on the same team if you
want a great marriage, you must view everything as some sort of game and
make it a goal to compete with them and not actually complete them.
#6 – Focus As Much As Possible On Their Inadequacies & Shortcomings
You’ve GOT to talk about how much they are “not meeting your needs”
and how they need to “step up and do better” as often as possible. By
all means do NOT take a look at yourself and what you could do to
improve the marriage. Everything MUST be blamed on them and you’ve got
to see yourself as flawless and perfect.
#7 – Do NOT Have Fun Together
Heck no!!! You need your set of friends and your spouse needs their
set. Don’t have mutual friends. Don’t have date nights. Don’t do
anything fun as a family. Make sure that when you are out on a date as a
couple you spend as much time on your phone with someone else as
possible because communication with your spouse will do nothing except
make your marriage stronger.